How to be an Alpha Male

It is said by many dating gurus that being a cocky and funny male attracts women. These are known as alpha males. It is a known fact that both men and women are attracted to leadership. No one really likes a follower that can’t think for themselves. So how can being an alpha male benefit your dating life? Well, you will have to balance out your leadership. By being the strongly guided male with a strong set direction, you must also have a side to you that listens to the other person and connecting with them. Boasting about yourself and being comedic will only get you but so far. If you take time to listen to the girl, you will be able to figure out what she is about and how you can move on that.

The combo of being the cocky/funny guy who listens will earn you major points with the ladies. This shows them that you are confident, yet easy going. Power attracts women, it is a known fact. Another option you will need to make is whether you want to be the nice guy or the jerk. By being too much of one of the above combos can leave you on either side. By being cocky and somewhat mean, you will be portrayed as the jerk and if you are quieter and listen often, you will be known as the nice guy. There is a problem with both scenarios.

Being the nice guy can be a problem because while listening to the woman’s problems, you may get caught up in the woman’s emotions. When she is angry, you will be so as well and if she is sad, it will rub off on you. When she shows anxiety about becoming sexually involved with you, you will become anxious as well. This can make your romance with her a complete bust.

Now, by being the jerk, you will be the headstrong guy that steps all over any and everybody to get where you’re trying to go, no matter who you hurt in the process; even the woman you’re trying to court. For a jerk to win others have to lose and no one wants to be a part of that option.

It is important that you remain confident and strong about your decisions, but you must also take heart to what others are feeling and what they have to say. This will make you the ultimate guy to be around. You will be admired and desired by the lady you are dating or trying to date. By listening to the women you are trying to attract, you will earn points for being a nice guy and by staying strong and confident throughout the conversation will boost you up there with the jerk category, but they simply cancel each other out; making you the alpha male. Being a little of both is the way to go. You can be the joker and cocky guy, but you need to know when the joking stops and when the substance begins.

You should also be open-minded at trying new things. Guys that aren’t afraid of taking risks attract even the hottest of women. This also goes for taking risks with women. Put yourself out there and women will surely scoop you up.

5 Proven Ways To Become A High Status Alpha Male

Some men seem to have all the luck. They're handsome, they're successful and gorgeous girls swoon as they walk down the street. They are the Alpha Males, and it's all too easy to convince yourself that we mere mortals can't compete.

Well, I'm here to tell you that not only can you take on the Alpha Males and win, but by following the five tips below you can learn to become one.

Look Your Best

You can't expect to stay trim and toned if you spend every evening slobbing in front of the TV. If you're not happy with your appearance, get some exercise. Most gyms offer personalised training programs or if you want something less structured take your friends to the park and kick about a soccer ball.

Realise that what suited you as a teenager may not suit you now. If your hairstyle hasn't changed in twenty years, visit the best hairdresser you can afford and get yourself an upgrade. Similarly, if your clothes are drab and shapeless visit a personal shopper (many stores offer free services these days) and discover which styles and colors suit you best.

Pursue Your Goals

Alpha Males may appear to have success fall in their laps but in fact most of them work very hard to achieve their goals. But simply studying and schmoozing is not enough to guarantee success. You have to believe you deserve it.

If your inner voice is overly critical, practice disagreeing with it. If it tells you you're not special enough, remind it you're just as good as the next guy. If it claims you'll never get the promotion, tell it that somebody has to and there's no good reason why it shouldn't be you. Then go for it!

Have a Life

Alpha Male status may seem like a great way to get the girls, but the real men know there's more to life than work and a string of one night stands.

If you're lacking in hobbies and interests it's time to start cultivating some. Life should be fun so get out there and enjoy yourself. Not only will this give you something to talk to women about, but if you have something exciting to do with your weekends suddenly your Friday night attempts to pull will lose a lot of their unpleasant urgency.

Act Confident

Part of an Alpha Male's charm is his laid back confidence. And the good news is it can easily be faked.

To appear calm, masculine and totally at ease, stand with your shoulders back, don't jiggle or fiddle and keep a steady gaze. Adopt a relaxed pose by leaning backwards or against something and listen intently to what is being said.

When speaking, keep your voice low and calm and don't be drawn into conversations about anything you don't understand.

Respect Women

Forget the looks and the success, the real reason most men are jealous of Alpha Males is their success with women. And the secret behind it is that they treat women well.

Even if all you're after is a one night stand, show the girl respect by listening to what she's saying, showing impeccable manners and never putting her under pressure to do anything she isn't ready for. If you intend to see her again, phone when you say will and consider sending flowers.

What Alpha Males realise and many other men don't is that most women don't demand amazing looks or a fantastic job, most women just want to be treated like a lady.